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This is the Noble Intention of Your Fear

This is the Noble Intention of Your Fear

Today’s post is about FEAR. This post is #3 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and their Messages. The central point is:  The human emotional system is built as a messaging system. Each emotion has a general message it wants to convey.  Once […]

Why Your Sadness is All Good

Why Your Sadness is All Good

I know, being sad is a bummer. Most people don’t want to sign up for experiencing sadness.  It’s not exactly pleasant. However, sadness is actually an important part of the human experience. Just like it is important that our cells die off and replace themselves. […]

This is What Happens When Anger Shows Up

This is What Happens When Anger Shows Up

The human emotional system is built as a messaging system. Each emotion has a general message it wants to convey.  Once that message is delivered, the emotion or the wave of that emotion can subside. Sometimes it takes a little time for the emotion to […]

The Single Most Important Factor that Determines Whether You Can Get Through an Issue

The Single Most Important Factor that Determines Whether You Can Get Through an Issue

Willingness. It is the one thing that determines how successful my clients are in therapy, and ultimately, in their life. Why?  Because it is a state of openness. Ultimately, if there is a challenge showing up, it is happening because there is an adjustment needed. […]

How to Get Better at Dealing with Tears

How to Get Better at Dealing with Tears

Why is dealing with tears so hard sometimes? People apologize for their tears in therapy all the time.  They say “I told myself I wasn’t going to cry today”.  Or I will see them actively try to stop their tears.  And this is IN THERAPY. […]

These are 2 Reasons Therapy Works

These are 2 Reasons Therapy Works

We use this format of healing all the time: talking with people we trust. So, why not talk with your trusted friend?  Why pay money to talk with a therapist or coach? If you find the right therapist, it should feel like talking to a […]

When Is It Time to Go To Therapy?  How Can You Get the Most of it?

When Is It Time to Go To Therapy? How Can You Get the Most of it?

Therapy is not for “crazy” people.  Let’s get that one out of the way. Therapy is for people who want to be proactive about resolving limitations and growing through difficulties.  Don’t believe me?  Check out this Forbes article. Obviously, people experience different issues and levels […]

How to Make Setting Boundaries Easier and More Effective

How to Make Setting Boundaries Easier and More Effective

Did you know you are setting boundaries all the time, maybe without even knowing it? In the personal growth world, there is a lot of talk about boundaries. First of all, what are they? Boundaries are a framework around relationship dynamics. They are the rules […]

Here are 3 Ways to Be Powerful in Any Situation

Here are 3 Ways to Be Powerful in Any Situation

Everyone encounters seemingly impossible situations. These are situations where it really feels like you are powerless.  Your hands are tied.  Like, no matter what you do, it’s not going to turn out how you want it. Usually those situations carry emotional intensity.  And, let’s be […]

This is One Way You Can Accomplish More by Doing Less with Gridlocked Issues

This is One Way You Can Accomplish More by Doing Less with Gridlocked Issues

Do you ever feel like you are doing all the work? Having the SAME discussion all the time and there are no changes? What if I told you that there is a finite amount of emotional space? When you are all over the emotional space […]