Tag: Adulting

“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”

“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”

We have all either thought or said this at some point:  “you wouldn’t act like this if you loved me.” I have to tell you something:  this belief is probably causing unnecessary pain and suffering. There is this prevailing thought that people act one certain […]

Why Is It So Hard To Change? These Are 3 Ways to Help Get You There.

Why Is It So Hard To Change? These Are 3 Ways to Help Get You There.

Adopting a new way of handling difficult things is not usually something you bother to do when everything is going great. Usually you decide you must make a change when there have been tough times. You are built to be drawn toward what is familiar […]

When Things Aren’t Going Your Way, This One Question Changes Everything

When Things Aren’t Going Your Way, This One Question Changes Everything

Whether it feels like one thing after another or it feels like big things are not going your way, there is a helpful way to look at it. We all know that there is no “there” to get to where everything is perfect, when we […]

When You Resist Your Feelings: There’s no “Trying” in Emotions!

When I was thinking about this post, a little scene from A League Of Their Own popped into my head: Well, in the world of emotion, sometimes there is lots of crying!  But there is no trying, especially when it comes to feelings you are […]

Ever Wonder What Your Feelings Mean?  Here is the Meaning Behind 10 Common Emotions and What to Do With Them

Ever Wonder What Your Feelings Mean? Here is the Meaning Behind 10 Common Emotions and What to Do With Them

Emotions are messengers from the internal world.   They were designed that way.  They are here to help you survive and thrive.  Not be a nuisance.   When you pay attention to them and keep them clear, you have way more time and energy for […]

Why Mislabeling Frustration is Probably Slowing You Down

Why Mislabeling Frustration is Probably Slowing You Down

Frustration is like anger’s more socially acceptable cousin. You don’t want to be a jerk so you say “I’m not mad, I’m frustrated”. I like that you are trying to be nice.  That’s sweet. But it’s really not helping you. By labeling your anger “frustration”, […]

What if Jealousy is a Sheep in Wolf’s Clothing?

What if Jealousy is a Sheep in Wolf’s Clothing?

You read that correctly.  A sheep in wolf’s clothing. Jealousy gets villainized.   It is regarded as unbecoming.  And, I get that.  But let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater… This post is #8 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and […]

Healthy Guilt Can Show You What Kind of Person You Are

Healthy Guilt Can Show You What Kind of Person You Are

No one enjoys feeling guilty. It might be hard to believe there could be anything helpful about it.  There is.  It tells you something about the kind of person you are. There is even actually something helpful about shame, which seems like a relative of […]

This Will Help You Appreciate Disappointment For the First Time

This Will Help You Appreciate Disappointment For the First Time

There doesn’t seem to be anything redeeming about disappointment. It’s not exactly a feeling one appreciates.  But there actually IS a gift inherent in disappointment. This post is #4 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and their Messages. The central point is:  The human […]

This is the Noble Intention of Your Fear

This is the Noble Intention of Your Fear

Today’s post is about FEAR. This post is #3 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and their Messages. The central point is:  The human emotional system is built as a messaging system. Each emotion has a general message it wants to convey.  Once […]