Tag: counseling

“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”

“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”

We have all either thought or said this at some point:  “you wouldn’t act like this if you loved me.” I have to tell you something:  this belief is probably causing unnecessary pain and suffering. There is this prevailing thought that people act one certain […]

Emotions: Are They in the Way or Getting You on the Way?

Emotions: Are They in the Way or Getting You on the Way?

“Emotions can get in the way or get you on the way.” -Mavis Mazhura So, how are you supposed to tell the difference? Are they getting in the way?  Or getting you on the way? Let’s break this down. –>  We have emotions that are […]

Did You Know That Shame Is Not An Emotion?

Did You Know That Shame Is Not An Emotion?

Shame is not exactly a feeling. Shame is an experience human beings have—like depression or anxiety. It is also often a numbing agent. This is not a conscious process.  You don’t think to yourself: “Oh, I will just feel ashamed in order to numb myself.” […]

Disgust: The Emotional System’s Eject Button

Disgust: The Emotional System’s Eject Button

The physical sensation of disgust, like many unpleasant emotions, can distract from the feeling’s true message because it is not enjoyable to experience.  It is, by nature, repellant. The fact is, disgust can be essential to emotional survival and well being, if we are discerning […]

The Single Most Important Factor that Determines Whether You Can Get Through an Issue

The Single Most Important Factor that Determines Whether You Can Get Through an Issue

Willingness. It is the one thing that determines how successful my clients are in therapy, and ultimately, in their life. Why?  Because it is a state of openness. Ultimately, if there is a challenge showing up, it is happening because there is an adjustment needed. […]

These are 2 Reasons Therapy Works

These are 2 Reasons Therapy Works

We use this format of healing all the time: talking with people we trust. So, why not talk with your trusted friend?  Why pay money to talk with a therapist or coach? If you find the right therapist, it should feel like talking to a […]