Tag: dealing with emotions

“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”

“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”

We have all either thought or said this at some point:  “you wouldn’t act like this if you loved me.” I have to tell you something:  this belief is probably causing unnecessary pain and suffering. There is this prevailing thought that people act one certain […]

This Will Help You Appreciate Disappointment For the First Time

This Will Help You Appreciate Disappointment For the First Time

There doesn’t seem to be anything redeeming about disappointment. It’s not exactly a feeling one appreciates.  But there actually IS a gift inherent in disappointment. This post is #4 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and their Messages. The central point is:  The human […]

How to Get Better at Dealing with Tears

How to Get Better at Dealing with Tears

Why is dealing with tears so hard sometimes? People apologize for their tears in therapy all the time.  They say “I told myself I wasn’t going to cry today”.  Or I will see them actively try to stop their tears.  And this is IN THERAPY. […]

This is One Way You Can Accomplish More by Doing Less with Gridlocked Issues

This is One Way You Can Accomplish More by Doing Less with Gridlocked Issues

Do you ever feel like you are doing all the work? Having the SAME discussion all the time and there are no changes? What if I told you that there is a finite amount of emotional space? When you are all over the emotional space […]