Tag: Emotional Intelligence

Disgust: The Emotional System’s Eject Button

Disgust: The Emotional System’s Eject Button

The physical sensation of disgust, like many unpleasant emotions, can distract from the feeling’s true message because it is not enjoyable to experience.  It is, by nature, repellant. The fact is, disgust can be essential to emotional survival and well being, if we are discerning […]

Joy.  Who Has Time for That? Here’s One Reason to Pay Attention to it.

Joy. Who Has Time for That? Here’s One Reason to Pay Attention to it.

Joy.  Yes, that feeling you want, that everybody wants, but you never want to have to think about it. Let me be honest.  When I read headlines that mention happiness or joy, I’m like “sure, but I have really important things to do like help […]

Why Mislabeling Frustration is Probably Slowing You Down

Why Mislabeling Frustration is Probably Slowing You Down

Frustration is like anger’s more socially acceptable cousin. You don’t want to be a jerk so you say “I’m not mad, I’m frustrated”. I like that you are trying to be nice.  That’s sweet. But it’s really not helping you. By labeling your anger “frustration”, […]

What if Jealousy is a Sheep in Wolf’s Clothing?

What if Jealousy is a Sheep in Wolf’s Clothing?

You read that correctly.  A sheep in wolf’s clothing. Jealousy gets villainized.   It is regarded as unbecoming.  And, I get that.  But let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater… This post is #8 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and […]

Healthy Guilt Can Show You What Kind of Person You Are

Healthy Guilt Can Show You What Kind of Person You Are

No one enjoys feeling guilty. It might be hard to believe there could be anything helpful about it.  There is.  It tells you something about the kind of person you are. There is even actually something helpful about shame, which seems like a relative of […]

Do You Get Irritated A Lot?  You Are Not a Monster.

Do You Get Irritated A Lot? You Are Not a Monster.

I know.  It feels like you are.  You feel guilty about it. But, really, the fact that you feel guilty about getting annoyed a lot reveals that is not your true nature.  You see, guilt is an indication that you have travelled outside the range […]

This is the Noble Intention of Your Fear

This is the Noble Intention of Your Fear

Today’s post is about FEAR. This post is #3 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and their Messages. The central point is:  The human emotional system is built as a messaging system. Each emotion has a general message it wants to convey.  Once […]

Why Your Sadness is All Good

Why Your Sadness is All Good

I know, being sad is a bummer. Most people don’t want to sign up for experiencing sadness.  It’s not exactly pleasant. However, sadness is actually an important part of the human experience. Just like it is important that our cells die off and replace themselves. […]

This is What Happens When Anger Shows Up

This is What Happens When Anger Shows Up

The human emotional system is built as a messaging system. Each emotion has a general message it wants to convey.  Once that message is delivered, the emotion or the wave of that emotion can subside. Sometimes it takes a little time for the emotion to […]

How to Get Better at Dealing with Tears

How to Get Better at Dealing with Tears

Why is dealing with tears so hard sometimes? People apologize for their tears in therapy all the time.  They say “I told myself I wasn’t going to cry today”.  Or I will see them actively try to stop their tears.  And this is IN THERAPY. […]