Tag: Mindfulness

“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”

“You Wouldn’t Act Like That If You Loved Me”

We have all either thought or said this at some point:  “you wouldn’t act like this if you loved me.” I have to tell you something:  this belief is probably causing unnecessary pain and suffering. There is this prevailing thought that people act one certain […]

Why Is It So Hard To Change? These Are 3 Ways to Help Get You There.

Why Is It So Hard To Change? These Are 3 Ways to Help Get You There.

Adopting a new way of handling difficult things is not usually something you bother to do when everything is going great. Usually you decide you must make a change when there have been tough times. You are built to be drawn toward what is familiar […]

Why Mislabeling Frustration is Probably Slowing You Down

Why Mislabeling Frustration is Probably Slowing You Down

Frustration is like anger’s more socially acceptable cousin. You don’t want to be a jerk so you say “I’m not mad, I’m frustrated”. I like that you are trying to be nice.  That’s sweet. But it’s really not helping you. By labeling your anger “frustration”, […]

The Single Most Important Factor that Determines Whether You Can Get Through an Issue

The Single Most Important Factor that Determines Whether You Can Get Through an Issue

Willingness. It is the one thing that determines how successful my clients are in therapy, and ultimately, in their life. Why?  Because it is a state of openness. Ultimately, if there is a challenge showing up, it is happening because there is an adjustment needed. […]

The Best Way to Start Trusting Your Feelings

The Best Way to Start Trusting Your Feelings

Feelings don’t exactly have a good reputation in terms of being accurate, so I know they might be hard to trust. How can you trust your feelings? The best place to start (bear with me for 2 seconds) is by understanding a basic tenet of […]

3 Reasons Why You Need to Care About Mindfulness

3 Reasons Why You Need to Care About Mindfulness

Everyone is talking about Mindfulness. To the point where you might not want to care about it.  You probably see annoying memes about the present moment.  I get it.  Sometimes I scroll by and just want to hate it. But, the reason mindfulness is huge […]