Tag: Personal Growth

Why Is It So Hard To Change? These Are 3 Ways to Help Get You There.

Why Is It So Hard To Change? These Are 3 Ways to Help Get You There.

Adopting a new way of handling difficult things is not usually something you bother to do when everything is going great. Usually you decide you must make a change when there have been tough times. You are built to be drawn toward what is familiar […]

When Things Aren’t Going Your Way, This One Question Changes Everything

When Things Aren’t Going Your Way, This One Question Changes Everything

Whether it feels like one thing after another or it feels like big things are not going your way, there is a helpful way to look at it. We all know that there is no “there” to get to where everything is perfect, when we […]

Feedback: Take it or Leave it?  Here’s a Guide.

Feedback: Take it or Leave it? Here’s a Guide.

Everybody loves to share their thoughts on what and how you are doing. How are you supposed to filter through all that feedback? There are two ends of the spectrum here. There is the end of the spectrum where you trust what other people say […]

This Will Help You Appreciate Disappointment For the First Time

This Will Help You Appreciate Disappointment For the First Time

There doesn’t seem to be anything redeeming about disappointment. It’s not exactly a feeling one appreciates.  But there actually IS a gift inherent in disappointment. This post is #4 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and their Messages. The central point is:  The human […]

This is What Happens When Anger Shows Up

This is What Happens When Anger Shows Up

The human emotional system is built as a messaging system. Each emotion has a general message it wants to convey.  Once that message is delivered, the emotion or the wave of that emotion can subside. Sometimes it takes a little time for the emotion to […]

The Single Most Important Factor that Determines Whether You Can Get Through an Issue

The Single Most Important Factor that Determines Whether You Can Get Through an Issue

Willingness. It is the one thing that determines how successful my clients are in therapy, and ultimately, in their life. Why?  Because it is a state of openness. Ultimately, if there is a challenge showing up, it is happening because there is an adjustment needed. […]

When Is It Time to Go To Therapy?  How Can You Get the Most of it?

When Is It Time to Go To Therapy? How Can You Get the Most of it?

Therapy is not for “crazy” people.  Let’s get that one out of the way. Therapy is for people who want to be proactive about resolving limitations and growing through difficulties.  Don’t believe me?  Check out this Forbes article. Obviously, people experience different issues and levels […]