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How to Practice Taking Equal and Balanced Responsibility

How to Practice Taking Equal and Balanced Responsibility

You might be finding yourself in relationship dynamics where you are being too accountable. If you are not sure what this means, take a moment and go back to the last post about this here. I’m going to be honest with you: making a shift […]

What If You Are TOO Accountable?

What If You Are TOO Accountable?

It’s a thing: being too accountable. The concept of being responsible for your actions is a positive and empowering message communicated by good parents, respectable organizations, teachers, mental health professionals, leaders with integrity and many others.  And it should be. It is an important skill: […]

Not Sure What Your Boundaries Are?  Anger and Guilt Will Make Them Clear.

Not Sure What Your Boundaries Are? Anger and Guilt Will Make Them Clear.

Anger and guilt are similar in the sense that they experientially disclose true boundaries and values.  Not just our intellectual constructs of them. That’s the beauty of emotions, they bypass what we “think” or “expect”.  To be fair, that can also be the challenge of […]

Did You Know Anxiety is Not an Emotion Either?

Did You Know Anxiety is Not an Emotion Either?

It’s a state. Like stress.  Or depression. Anxiety, stress and depression are usually states that wrap around a cluster of emotions, thoughts or beliefs. So what is anxiety? Anxiety is usually an activating state that comes with being over aroused because there are uncomfortable emotions […]

Did You Know That Shame Is Not An Emotion?

Did You Know That Shame Is Not An Emotion?

Shame is not exactly a feeling. Shame is an experience human beings have—like depression or anxiety. It is also often a numbing agent. This is not a conscious process.  You don’t think to yourself: “Oh, I will just feel ashamed in order to numb myself.” […]

Ever Wonder What Your Feelings Mean?  Here is the Meaning Behind 10 Common Emotions and What to Do With Them

Ever Wonder What Your Feelings Mean? Here is the Meaning Behind 10 Common Emotions and What to Do With Them

Emotions are messengers from the internal world.   They were designed that way.  They are here to help you survive and thrive.  Not be a nuisance.   When you pay attention to them and keep them clear, you have way more time and energy for […]

Disgust: The Emotional System’s Eject Button

Disgust: The Emotional System’s Eject Button

The physical sensation of disgust, like many unpleasant emotions, can distract from the feeling’s true message because it is not enjoyable to experience.  It is, by nature, repellant. The fact is, disgust can be essential to emotional survival and well being, if we are discerning […]

Joy.  Who Has Time for That? Here’s One Reason to Pay Attention to it.

Joy. Who Has Time for That? Here’s One Reason to Pay Attention to it.

Joy.  Yes, that feeling you want, that everybody wants, but you never want to have to think about it. Let me be honest.  When I read headlines that mention happiness or joy, I’m like “sure, but I have really important things to do like help […]

Why Mislabeling Frustration is Probably Slowing You Down

Why Mislabeling Frustration is Probably Slowing You Down

Frustration is like anger’s more socially acceptable cousin. You don’t want to be a jerk so you say “I’m not mad, I’m frustrated”. I like that you are trying to be nice.  That’s sweet. But it’s really not helping you. By labeling your anger “frustration”, […]

What if Jealousy is a Sheep in Wolf’s Clothing?

What if Jealousy is a Sheep in Wolf’s Clothing?

You read that correctly.  A sheep in wolf’s clothing. Jealousy gets villainized.   It is regarded as unbecoming.  And, I get that.  But let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater… This post is #8 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and […]